When Relaxing Is the Point

As any reader of this blog knows, I tend to overthink things. Maybe it’s my anxiety, maybe it’s just part of my personality, who knows – either way, decisions aren’t made lightly when it comes to how I live my life. That’s one of the reasons I struggled over the weekend, but also one of the ways that I was taught a valuable lesson in how to spend and enjoy my time. I operate with the mindset that every single moment of my day has to have a vague, undefined sense of meaning and importance, and I’m starting to learn that this doesn’t have to be true. Sometimes, the only reason we do things is to feel good and enjoy ourselves – and that can be a very good thing.

I’m not sure if I’ve written about this before on MBNB, but I like to play video games. There aren’t a ton I play (I stick to the same 3-4 games that come out with new versions every year), but it’s a hobby I’ve spent more time doing since the pandemic hit.

Outside of the pure enjoyment I get out of it, I’ve also realized that it’s a space where, whether by accident or on purpose, my brain is occupied. I have to focus on the game I’m playing, or I won’t succeed in playing it. And while there are many other ways I could occupy my brain, this is one I’ve found that’s been extremely effective – especially when my anxious brain won’t stop spinning.

My default approach to getting through my day is multi-tasking. My brain is occupied with so many thoughts – racing thoughts, negative thoughts, unhelpful thoughts, etc. In order to get things done, I have to either focus on the task at hand and put my whole weight into doing something, or I have to accept the fact that I’m doing my best at getting something done while I’m thinking two things at once. It can get to be too much at times, but I’ve been able to find success where I can.

But when I play video games, everything is in front of me. I don’t have time or space to think or reflect – I’m too busy trying to win at the game. And in doing that, the real win isn’t whatever game I’m playing, but that in the moment, I’m as relaxed as I possibly can be. It’s almost like I hit pause on the negative thoughts and didn’t give them anywhere to go, so they leave for the time being. I’ve experienced that feeling before, but I’ve never been able to find it so consistency in my hobbies and activities.

Now this isn’t 100 percent fool-proof, but it happens enough to show me that sometimes the point of doing something is to relax. And that’s something I’m still trying to make sense of. We need that time where our brain doesn’t have to work so hard, where we can reset and recharge for what’s ahead. I know I’ll find additional ways to do this in the future but for now, I’m glad I found a way that works for me. It might be simple, but it is definitely effective – and that’s the most important part of adding something to your mental health toolkit.

Now I want to hear from you! Do you have any hobbies or activities that help your brain relax or ‘turn off’? Let me know in the comments!

5 thoughts on “When Relaxing Is the Point

  1. Stephanie October 19, 2021 / 10:35 am

    I have a hard time relaxing, as well. The most effective thing I have found helpful is writing. It tends to focus my mind and provide clarity to thoughts that I need to address.

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    • Nathan @ MBNB October 20, 2021 / 10:52 am

      I’m glad you found something that’s effective – it’s not easy to do! I’m also hopeful that some of the things we find that bring us relaxation or calm will change over time, which means a chance to find new ways in the future.

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  2. Maigan October 21, 2021 / 1:01 am

    Hi! I loved your blog! I’m glad to see that this post is so relatable, and I hope it reaches people who need to hear it. Personally, I struggle to relax and it took me a while to find a Hobbie that helps me get my mind off things. I liked that you shared your Hobbie as an example because it’s somthing that shows people that it’s okay to do the things you love to help your mental health. Thank you for the blog! – maigan

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  3. Maigan October 21, 2021 / 1:23 am

    Hi! I loved your blog! I’m glad to see that this post is so relatable, and I hope it reaches people who need to hear it. Personally, I struggle to relax and it took me a while to find a Hobbie that helps me get my mind off things. I liked that you shared your Hobbie as an example because it’s somthing that shows people that it’s okay to do the things you love to help your mental health. Thank you for the blog! – maigan 🙂

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    • Nathan @ MBNB October 21, 2021 / 9:37 am

      I’ve definitely learned that there are a lot more people that have difficulty relaxing, but that feeling can be isolating so we don’t say it out loud. If you find something you enjoy doing that helps your mental health and doesn’t bother anyone, I say go for it! Thanks so much for reading and sharing your thoughts!

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